Growing up with Allyson, a fierce and determined individual, I’ve had the privilege to witness the challenges, pressures, and triumphs women face on and off the track. Yet, what's remained consistent is the crucial role men play in either fostering or hindering their progress. While I've learned a lot about being an ally through the lens of a brother, manager, and entrepreneur, I understand that I'll never fully grasp the depth of challenges women face daily. But that doesn't mean men should stand idle.
Women have voiced the need for change for a long time. Now, more than ever, it's imperative for the men in your lives to listen, learn, and act. So, for the fathers, brothers, husbands, partners, friends, and colleagues out there, here are five actionable tips to begin your journey towards effective allyship.
1. Educate Yourself
Before anything else, take it upon yourself to understand the challenges women face daily. From microaggressions at work to societal expectations, make an effort to educate yourself about issues like sexism, unconscious bias, and the barriers that women face. Read books, attend seminars, and most importantly, listen to the stories of the women in your life.
2. Speak Out, But Not Over
It's essential to voice your support and challenge harmful behavior when you see it. But remember, it's equally vital to ensure you aren’t speaking over women or making the conversation about you. Allyship means amplifying women's voices, not replacing them with your own. If you're in a position of influence, use it to create platforms and opportunities for women to share their insights and perspectives.
3. Ask, Listen, Act
Instead of making assumptions about what women want or need, simply ask them. Listen intently to their answers without interrupting or getting defensive. After understanding their perspective, take actionable steps. Whether it's making changes at work or adjusting your behavior, let your actions speak louder than words.
4. Recognize Privilege and Use It For Good
Privilege doesn't mean you haven't faced struggles; it just means that some challenges haven't come your way because of gender (or race, or class, etc.). Recognize the areas where you hold privilege and use that power to challenge and change unjust systems. This might mean stepping back sometimes, passing opportunities to deserving women, or even challenging discriminatory practices at work.
5. Commit Long-Term
Allyship isn't a one-time act. It's a lifelong commitment to support, advocate, and stand by women. Be open to feedback, even when it's uncomfortable, and constantly evaluate your actions to ensure they're in line with your commitment to be an ally.
In the world of sports, as in life, the race towards gender equality is a marathon, not a sprint. It requires persistence, determination, and collective effort. To the wonderful women reading this, know that you're not alone. Encourage the men in your lives to step up, and together, let's run this race to the finish line.
Being Allyson's brother has taught me that allyship is about understanding, growth, and taking actionable steps for change. It’s an honor and a responsibility. Let's do this together.
